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23 Sept. 2020: Today is the International Day of Sign Languages! Image of international flags at United Nations.
The International Day of Sign Languages began in 2018 during International Week of the Deaf. Image of people in circle demonstate signing "Interpreter" in ASL.
The day honors over 300 sign languages used worldwide by over 70 million people. Image of diverse group of young people.
Just like spoken language, sign language varies by country and region. Image of man looking at world map.
Sign languages are vital to “express oneself, connect with others and participate in all aspects of economic, social, cultural and political spheres.” - U.N. Secretary General António Guterres. Video of group communicating and gesturing to music.
Sign language increases inclusion of people who are deaf or partially deaf in society. Image of group signing "Help" in ASL.
A 2016 study found American Sign Language was the 3rd most popular language in college and graduate studies. Image of student in library.
The International Day also commemorates the anniversary of the World Federation for the Deaf. Image of United Nations in New York City.
Equal Opportunity icon with rainbow background with black and brown foundation bars. University West 116, Title IX and Equal Opportunity, 361-570-4835.
How to stay safe online (multi screen view of different ages, races and genders of people).
Protect your personal information (woman on couch using smart phone). Wait to share your real contact methods like your phone number, location or school. Set up a separate number and account. Make them dispoable in case someone abuses them.
Spammers operate on dating sites. It may be too good to be true. Don't share anything they could use to blackmail you (man at table using smartphone).
Meet up in public locations (young couple talking at cafe counter). Tell someone where you will be. Tell someone where you will be.
Watch out for your Geolocations (woman walking on sidewalk with smartphone). Keep your GPS off social media. Only share GPS data with trusted allies.
Check for truthfulness (man typing on laptop). Think of ways to verify their real name, school, job and character.
Watch out for control tactics. The right person will want you to be safe and comfortable (gender neutral person outside at night on smartphone, smiles at end of clip).
Learn more about safety plans. Equal Opportunity icon with rainbow background with black and brown foundation bars. University West 116, Title IX and Equal Opportunity, 361-570-4835.
This Day in History – August 28, 1963. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. gives his historic “I Have a Dream” speech. Image of Dr. King. He called to end racism in the United States at the front of the Lincoln Memorial in the March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom. Image of Lincoln Memorial, Washington, D.C.
Over 200,000 people attended his speech. The event also featured John Lewis and 16 other speakers. Image of the March. The March protested racial discrimination and supported civil rights legislation pending in Congress. Video of visitors walking the National Mall.
He proclaimed that the movement would not be over until people of color were no longer victim to "the unspeakable horrors of police brutality." Image of protestor holding sign “It’s a privilege to educate yourself about racism instead of experiencing it!!!”
He spoke not just of his dream, but of his faith that . . . "we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day." Images of civil rights leaders holding signs and hands in procession and current day observers with American flag.
The "I Have a Dream" speech became a symbol of the American civil rights movement and is one of the most recognizable speeches in recorded history. Image of Dr. King’s memorial. Listen to "I Have a Dream" today . . . and put his words to action. Image of Martin Luther King Jr. street sign in front of columned building.
- This day is celebrated each year on July 26.
- It commemorates the anniversary of the signing of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) on July 29, 1990.
- Why is the ADA important? The ADA is a civil rights law that prohibits discrimination against individuals with disabilities.
- The ADA provides protection from employment discrimination as well as better access to goods, services and communications for people with disabilities.
- An individual with a disability has a physical or mental impairment that limits one or more major life activities, a history or record of such an impairment, or is perceived by others as having such an impairment. –The ADA.
- Did you know? An employer cannot refuse to hire you because your disability prevents you from performing duties that are not essential to the job.
- The CDC found that 1 in 4 (one in four) Americans have a disability. Learn more at www.cdc.gov/ncbddd
- Equal Opportunity icon of admin building with rainbow background and black and brown foundation bars.
- Audio and video made with www.Biteable.com.
This week, the United States Supreme Court protects LGBTQ+ workers in the new landmark case Bostock v. Clayton County, Georgia.
Did you know . . . gender identity and sexual orientation are already protected under our System and campus policies? Gender expression is also protected.
Learn more at UHV Equal Opportunity page. Anti-discrimination protections and services. Options to report. Complaint process. Equal Opportunity icon and rainbow background on slide designs.
Unravel discrimination. Teach Black History all year round.
- 99 years ago this week in Tulsa, Oklahoma, "A mob destroyed 35-square-blocks of the African American Community."
- The attack on the Greenwood community of Tulsa or "Black Wall Street" left almost 10,000 people homeless and hundreds dead.
- "Some . . . in unmarked graves in a city owned cemetery and others . . . to unknown places in full view of the National Guard."
- Despite the violence and destruction, "no white Tulsan was ever sent to prison."
- Local officials passed an ordinance to prevent Greenwood from rebuilding. It was eventually overturned by the state Supreme Court.
- Seeking restoration, "the black community filed more than $4 million in claims. All were denied."
- "On June 1, 1921, Lady Justice was blind. Indeed, her eyes were gouged out." - Oklahoma State Senator Maxine Horner
- Reparations for the community have never been approved.
Quotes from the report: "Tulsa Race Riot, A Report by the Oklahoma Commission to Study the Tulsa Race Riot of 1921" published Feb. 28, 2001.
How we can support PRIDE everyday: Amplify LGBTQ+ voices. Use preferred pronouns. Speak up against bias and hate. Offer aid to targeted minorities. Share info on confidential resources. Showcase symbols of inclusion. Arrow points to Equal Opportunity Office icon (admin building on rainbow background with brown and black foundation layers). Don't forget intersectionality - represent people of color! Text appears on a background with a rainbow color pattern on wood panels.
Video "Innovation for Equality. Equality for Innovation" Part 1:
- Bessie Blount Griffin: Physical Therapist & Inventor. Created an assistive device that helped disabled veterans eat. 1948.
- Rachel Zimmerman: Space Scientist & Inventor. Created a software program to translate symbols tapped on a board into written language on a computer screen. 1984.
- Jose Hernandez-Rebollar: Electrical Engineer & Inventor. Invented Acceleglove, a glove that translates sign language into speech. 2003.
- Garrett Morgan: Inventor. Invented a breathing device, used to provide a safer breathing experience in the presence of pollutants. 1914.
- Dr. Patricia Bath: Medical Doctor & Inventor. Invented a laser cataract treatment device, Laserphaco Probe. 1988.
- Guillermo González Camarena: Electrical Engineer & Inventor. Created the Trichromatic Sequential Fields System, that turned television from black and white to color. 1940.
- UHV Title IX and Equal Opportunity logo (rainbow hand with brown and black design and words “observe, intervene, notify”).
Video "Innovation for Equality. Equality for Innovation" Part 2:
- Mary Beatrice Davidson: Inventor. Created a tray and pocket attachable to a walker, allowing people using walkers to carry items without using their hands. 1976.
- Charles Richard Drew: Physician & Surgeon. Organized America's first large-scale blood bank and innovated mobile blood donation trucks with refrigerators. WWII.
- Valerie Thomas: Scientist & Inventor. Invented and patented the Illusion Transmitter for NASA (also used in surgery practices and television). 1980.
- Madam C. J. Walker: Entrepreneur & Inventor. Created the hot comb and pomade for African American hair. She became the first female African American millionaire. 1910.
- Marie Van Brittan Brown: Inventor. Invented the first home security system and is credited with inventing the first closed circuit television. 1966.
- UHV Title IX and Equal Opportunity logo (rainbow hand with brown and black design and words “observe, intervene, notify”).
International Holocaust Remembrance Day
Series of videos for International Holocaust Remembrance Day, January 27, 2020.
75 years ago today, Auschwitz concentration camp was liberated.
Researchers estimate 1 million people were murdered at Auschwitz, the largest Nazi concentration camp.
Nazis and their allies used approximately 44,000 camps (including ghettos) to detain, force labor and murder targeted persons.
Victims of the Holocaust included persons targeted for illness or disability, sexual orientation, political ideology, ethnicity and religion.
Today we share narratives of those who survived.
Adapted from the following narratives:
- "Lasting Memory" by Erika Eckstut from the US Holocaust Memorial Museum.
- "I Remember" by Charlene Schiff from the US Holocaust Memorial Museum.
- "Tears" by Louise Lawrence-Israëls from the US Holocaust Memorial Museum.
Images of Auschwitz, hands holding star in cloth, and candles.
Suicide Prevention for #KNOWvember. Adapted from www.bethe1to.com
Sharing information and resources for suicide and self-harm prevention.
Suicide Prevention Step # 1: Ask and Listen. “Are you thinking about suicide?” Show that you are open to speaking about suicide. Express in unbiased, non-judgmental and direct manner.
Suicide Prevention Step #2: Keep them safe. Find out if they have attempted suicide before, if they have access to lethal methods and make sure there are security measures in place.
Suicide Prevention Step #3: Be there. Find ways to be there in person or by phone, or develop ideas for others who can be there. Lessen their isolation.
Suicide Prevention Step #4: Help them connect. Connect them with supports and resources from the community; find options that work for them. Develop a safety plan and a list of individuals to call when they feel suicidal tendencies.
Suicide Prevention Step #5: Follow up. Check in with them after you've provided them with the help they need. Studies show that even a simple form of reaching out can reduce their risk for suicide.
Reach out for a Lifeline. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 800-273-8255
*Please note that policies have updated since Salutations was first released, so review the UH System Sexual Misconduct Policy for updated definitions, processes and resources.
*Anonymous reports have changed from MySafeCampus to the Fraud and Non-Compliance Hotline.
Welcome to UHS Salutations
This video was developed to be used by the students of the four universities in the University of Houston System.
All rights reserved. Unauthorized use is prohibited. Copyright © 2015 University of Houston System.
Alex: Hey Me! Greetings and Salutations!
Alex: Welcome to the University of Houston System’s sexual misconduct awareness and prevention training program – also known as, Salutations.
Me: How did you come up with the name Salutations?
Alex: Great question!
Alex: Salutations is intended to inform students of issues associated with sexual misconduct in a way that is welcoming and useful.
Alex: Think of Salutations as being part of your orientation to the University of Houston System, or UHS for short, where we give you tools that help you to be successful.
Alex: Preventing sexual misconduct from occurring on our campuses helps everyone be successful.
Me: What is sexual misconduct?
Alex: At UHS, sexual misconduct is a broad term encompassing a range of non-consensual sexual activity, or unwelcome behavior of a sexual nature, that includes: sexual harassment, sexual assault, nonconsensual sexual touching, intimate partner violence (such as domestic and dating violence) and stalking.
Alex: Salutations aims to help students understand their rights and responsibilities under the Sexual Misconduct Policy as well as make students aware of concepts commonly associated with sexual violence that will reduce the risk of such acts from occurring on our campuses.
Me: Ok – I was told that this training was mandatory. Why again?
Alex: State and federal law requires that all new students, including graduate and transfer students, be trained on sexual misconduct.
Me: So I watch this video and I’m done?
Alex: Not quite.
Alex: After you watch the video, there is an exam that you have to pass with at least 80% or 8 correct answers. To prepare you for that exam, the video has been organized into four parts, beginning with an introduction and then followed by three scenarios.
Alex: The training will take about an hour but all of the questions for the exam are in the video.
Me: BTW – you referred to me as Me. That’s not my name.
Alex: LOL! You caught that!?
Alex: This training is meant to be an immersive experience, meaning, this training was designed to make you feel as if you’re a character in it. Throughout the training, your character will interact with others through online posts just like you would on social media.
Alex: Within this forum, your character will be represented as “Me” and your profile pic is a smiley face. So whenever you see “Me” and a smiley face – think – hey, that’s me!
Me: Interesting. And you are…?
Alex: I’m Alex. I am your guide throughout this training. Think of me as that friend that usually has good advice – at least I do for the next hour.
Alex: Now let’s introduce you to the rest of the gang.
All: Welcome to the University of Houston System!
Williams: Wait, wait, what do you mean system?
Jonathan: Well if you’re a student at the U of H, or U of H Downtown, U of H Clearlake, or U of H Victoria or in Sugarland, Pearland, Northwest, or any of our teaching centers affiliated with U of H, you are a part of the University of Houston system.
University of Houston System
- University of Houston
- University of Houston Downtown
- University of Houston Clear Lake
- University of Houston – Victoria
- Sugar Land
- Teaching Centers
Williams: Ok so we’re like a part of the same family. One system, like Voltron or something.
Williams: Google it.
Kate: Anyways! Welcome everybody to your awesome school! Congrats on getting here! We can’t wait to see what you’re going to do and what kind of impact you’re going to have on your campus. We also can’t wait to get to know you better through this site, UHS Salutations. So…
Williams: Greetings and Salutations
Jonathan: Ok, so here’s the deal. We know what it’s like to be you right now because, once, we were you.
Marisela: I remember it like it was yesterday.
Williams: Wow! You can remember a whole two semester ago?
Marisela: I do. I do. And I remember that there was a lot to learn. And I’m not even talking about classes. Like where to park?
Williams: Where to get a sandwich?
Marisela: Where to party?
Kate: And where to meet new people? I know I wasn’t totally prepared for everything, and it’s okay if you aren’t yet, either.
Jonathan: Yeah, and that’s why we’ve created Salutations. To help with some important things that may come up that aren’t covered in the classroom. Namely, sexual misconduct.
Williams: Right. Think of sexual misconduct as any unwanted activity of sexual nature.
Sexual Misconduct: Any unwanted activity of sexual nature. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Williams: For example, it’s one thing to want to engage in a hug or kiss, right? Something totally different if you don’t want to. Regardless of what campus you are on you have the right to be free from any unwanted sexual attention or conduct.
Marisela: Right. Our sexual misconduct policy covers a variety of behaviors that you know about, like sexual harassment. Anybody have an example?
Sexual Harassment: A form of sex discrimination that includes verbal, written or physical behavior of a sexual nature, directed at someone, or against a particular group. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Kate: Yeah, like when someone stands outside of the library like every day, and the same person catcalls you, or makes unwanted sexual comments to you, that could be sexual harassment.
Marisela: Nice. What about stalking? That’s covered too.
Stalking: Stalking is engaging in a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to: (1) Fear for their safety and/or the safety of others; or (2) Suffer substantial emotional distress. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Jonathan: It is. If someone doesn’t get the hint that you don’t want to date them, especially after you told them that and they begin to follow you, or engage in repeated behavior that puts you in fear of your safety, that might be stalking.
Kate: Yep and that might be a crime, too. If you’re fearing for your safety, you should definitely let your campus police department know.
Williams: Right. Same thing for domestic and dating violence. If your partner, spouse, or anyone you share a common child with gets physically violent with you, especially if it’s on campus that could be breaking the policy and could be a potential crime as well.
Domestic/Dating Violence: Domestic and dating violence are threats or acts of physical violence against a current or former spouse, intimate partner, anyone with a social relationship of a romantic nature, or with a person with whom a victim shares a common child. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Marisela: So what this means is you can contact the police or the University, or both for help if you want to. Just know that on your campus, there is at least one person who is responsible for all of this stuff and that person is called the Title IX Coordinator. It’s important that you are aware of all your options and the Title IX Coordinator can help explain all those options to you.
Title IX Coordinator: The Title IX Coordinator oversees the University’s response to reports and complaints that involve possible sex discrimination to monitor outcomes, identify and address any patterns, and assess effects on the campus climate, so the University can address issues that affect the wider school community. To find your campus Title IX Coordinator, go to: Title IX UHS Salutations.
Jonathan: Okay I’ve got one. What if someone took photos of you during a compromising activity?
Williams: What do you mean by compromising? You sound like a spy or something.
Jonathan: Say they took pictures of you while you were changing in your dorm room, or in a bathroom or a locker room, and you had no idea they were doing it.
Kate: Well, that’s awful! At UHS, that’s covered under the sexual exploitation provision under the sexual misconduct policy. Before you take those kind of pictures, you need to get permission from all parties involved.
Sexual Exploitation: When a party takes non-consensual or abusive sexual advantage of another for their own advantage or benefit, or to benefit or advantage anyone other than the one being exploited, and that behavior does not otherwise constitute one of the other Sexual Misconduct offenses. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Williams: Speaking of permission, one issue I know you’ve heard a lot about lately, is sexual assault. At UHS sexual assault occurs when you engage in a sexual activity with another person without their consent.
Sexual Assault: Sexual assault occurs when you engage in a sexual activity with another person without their consent. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Williams: Consent means you’ve got their permission to engage in that sexual activity with them.
Jonathan: Right. At UHS consent is an informed and freely and affirmatively communicated willingness to participate in a particular sexual activity.
Consent: an informed and freely and affirmatively communicated willingness to participate in a particular sexual activity. For more info visit: UHS Salutations
Jonathan: For example, I know I have consent when the person knows what it is we’re about to do and they agree to it without any kind of force or coercion. It’s not a surprise or a guess on anybody’s part. This is something we both want to do. Consent keeps us both safe.
Marisela: Look at you, A+!
Jonathan: I do what I can.
How do you know you have consent?
When your partner says you have it!
Remember, silence is not consent.
To learn more about consent, go to: Consent UHS Salutations
Kate: And it’s also important to know that UHS has reporting options that are anonymous and confidential. And there are ways to get help, both on and off-campus.
Marisela: Like you may just need to change rooms for a while, or make an adjustment to your schedule, or working situation. Your Title IX Coordinator can help you with that. The important thing is, until everything gets sorted out, we have to make sure that everybody is safe.
Jonathan: The thing is, when these things happen you need to know you have rights. You have the right to file complaints against the person who harassed you or engaged in a sexual activity without consent.
Kate: And if you’re accused of violating the policy, you have rights too. Such as, the right to provide a response, and everyone has the right to have an advisor present with them if they choose. While more information can be found within the policy, the point is that there’s a process for handling these matters and it’s intended to be fair.
To find your campus Title IX Coordinator go to: Title IX UHS Salutations.
Williams: If you ever need more information about the process or anything else regarding sexual misconduct, contact your Title IX Coordinator or just come back to Salutations.
Marisela: Alright, see you later!
Questions on Definitions and Policy
Salutations was designed so that you will learn information in a way that is most comfortable to you. That is why, after each major concept is presented, we will ask you to answer a few questions.
So please answer the following:
Catcalling, such as making lewd or other unwanted comments to a stranger in a public area, is an example of [blank]?
- Sexual Exploitation
- Sexual Harassment
- Sexual Assault
- Domestic Violence
- Dating Violence
Answer: The right answer is B. Sexual Harassment
Catcalling is a form of sexual harassment because it includes verbal behavior of a sexual nature that is directed at someone because of their actual or perceived sex, gender, gender expression, or sexual orientation, without their consent.
True or False?
Unbeknownst to Jonathan, Katherine recorded him with her cell phone while he was changing clothes in the bathroom. Katherine’s behavior would be considered a prohibited activity under the Sexual Misconduct Policy.
What Katherine did is considered voyeurism, which is the act of watching or recording someone when that person is in a place where they would have a reasonable expectation of privacy. This is prohibited under the sexual exploitation provision of the Sexual Misconduct Policy, because a party took non-consensual or abusive sexual advantage of another person for their own or another’s personal benefit.
Title IX is a law that protects people form discrimination based on sex in education programs or activities that receive federal financial assistance. According to the video, the Title IX Coordinator is:
- An officer with the police department.
- A psychologist in the counseling center.
- A confidential resource.
- All of the above.
- None of the above.
Answer: The right answer is E. None of the above.
The Title IX Coordinator is the person who oversees the University’s response to reports and complaints that involve possible sexual discrimination to monitor outcomes, identify and address any patterns, and assess effects of the campus climate, so the University can address issues that affect the wider school community. Although the Title IX Coordinator is not a confidential resource like a licensed professional counselor, medical professional, or a member of the clergy, the Title IX Coordinator is available to discuss options, explain University policies and provide education on the issue of sexual misconduct.
Great job on those questions. Now, let’s get into the scenarios.
As I told you before, Salutations was designed to be an immersive experience for you. So during the scenarios, your character will be communicating with other students about their college experiences. Each scenario presents an event, a group, and first person response to that event, so that you can see how students may react to that particular situation,
It will make more sense when you experience it so here we go!
Alex: The cool thing about college is that you make memories that last for life. Everyone who has attended college has had an experience with a class where they thought they would hate it but ended up loving it. Everyone has a story about pulling an all-nighter to write a paper that was due the next day. And everyone has a story about a party they went to and had a great time. Everyone should have great experiences in college, even at parties. However, when it comes to sexual misconduct, sometimes these fun times turn into risky situations where someone could get hurt. While the person doing the hurting may not have intended it, the consequences for doing so are serious regardless.
Marisela: omg I am so ready to party!!!
Williams: Mari!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Where have you been girl?
Marisela: Hiding out from you! JK!!! I needed a break but now I need to get out of this house.
Jonathan: u going tonight?? Im going if u are
Marisela: of course! Was so crazy last year
Kate: lol remember W’s dancing?
Williams: Everyone remembers my sweet moves ;-)
Jonathan: Remember this? The KING of BEERS!!!1 XD
King of beers video
People at a party, drinking, and drawing with a marker and making sexualized gestures at an unconscious male.
Guy with glasses: I’m the king of beers
Girl handing drink: Have another shot
Everyone screaming: Barry! Barry! Barry!
Guy in the back screaming: Do it again
Guy with glasses: I found the liquor store and I drank it. Agh.
Girl in the background: Take a look at this, King’s got a new crown
Guy in the background: Yeah you’re still down, but you’re getting action. Rodeo, big boy!
Video Chat Messages:
CastleCr4$hn98: Poor guy! Kinda funny tho… lol
Big BeAR: …thnx for putting this online guys… sorry mom.. and future employers…
Tr0113rThaBestMIKE01: FLASHBACK- the hump seen all over campus! Thanks Jonathan!
< >OP#1_Vkoni< >: Dry humping an unconscious dude & posting it on the internet for the world’s enjoyment. Epic FAIL.
ME: …What am I even seeing?
Alex: Yeah, college parties aren’t all “fun”…
Me: I can see that…
Me: I’m really excited to go and meet people, tho
Alex: U should be! U just have to be careful
Williams: cmon that guy had it coming
Alex: plz, just because he was passed out doesn’t mean Jarred should hump him like that.
Johnathan: I get that it was just a joke but I heard it’s getting serious. Legal stuff
Williams: LOL. Ya, I heard the school is investigating Jarred or something. Seriously?!?! For a joke? LAME.
Johnathan: Crazy right! I read the letter UHS sent Jarred. They said “the hump” was sexual so they had to investigate it.
Alex: @me- you’ll b ok. We’ve made our mistakes so you won’t have to. #Salutations
Marisela: Smh. Can we agree to meet up already? #WastingTime.
Kate: Is Kelly still “mysteriously” showing up wherever you are?
Marisela: Yes! Ugh. I’ll tell you about it later. All I want to do now is dance! Who’s in?
Williams: I’m down! :)
Alex: I’m about to go work out with Jarred. I’ll see if wants to come out with us. Considering all that’s going on, he may need cheering up.
Jarred (in person): No, there is no way I am going to that party. I’m about to be starting grad school soon I don’t need that right now. So I went to a party, had a little fun. Now I’m being accused of sexual misconduct for a prank. Ridiculous. When I was an undergrad my fraternity used to pull pranks on pledges all the time. Everyone did. They’re just pranks, hazing, or whatever. But no, now the university says they are filing a complaint against me. They said even though Barry doesn’t want to move forward or press charges or whatever. They still had to because of Title IX. I couldn’t believe it. I spent a solid day scouring UHS Salutations to try to learn about Title IX, the process, and my rights. What they could do in this investigation. I’m supposed to be starting grad school and because of this that might not happen. If they decide I violated this policy, I could have to attend training, they could suspend me. I can even get expelled. If I’d known all this was going to happen. I don’t need this right now.
Questions on Scenario Applications
Please answer the following:
Jarred, the graduate student, claimed that his humping of Barry while Barry was unconscious was just a “prank”. What, if any, provision of the Sexual Misconduct Policy could have been violated by Jarred’s actions?
- Nonconsensual Sexual Contact.
- The humping was a prank.
- Barry did not complain.
- Sexual assault.
- Dating violence.
Answer: The right answer is A. Nonconsensual Sexual Contact
Which is any intentional touching in a sexual manner, however slight or momentary. In this case, the “prank” was nonconsensual sexual contact because it was sexual in nature and Barry was unconscious – therefore he could not consent to the activity. One last thing to remember. Even if Barry does not file a complaint, once the University knows about the misconduct, it has an obligation to do something about it to ensure that it stops and it doesn’t happen again.
What, if any, provision of the policy, was violated by Maya – the female who drew a crown on Barry?
- Nonconsensual sexual touching.
- The touching was not sexual in nature.
- Barry did not complain.
- Sexual assault.
- Dating violence.
Answer: The right answer is B. None. The touching was not sexual in nature.
While some pranks like hazing DO violate the Student Code of Conduct or some other policy, pranks by themselves do not violate the Sexual Misconduct Policy; in order for the behavior to be prohibited under the Sexual Misconduct Policy it must be sexual in nature or motivated by a sexual relationship. Just remember, if the activity is sexual in nature, you need to get consent form the party before you engage in that activity.
When Jarred spoke of the Title IX and scouring UHS Salutations to find out about the process of handling sexual misconduct complaints, what do you think he found?
- That the investigation and resolution of the matter will prompt, fair, and impartial and conducted by persons who are trained annually on issues related to sexual misconduct.
- Both the accuser and the accused are entitled to the same opportunities throughout the process, including having an advisor of their choosing present and their right to appeal the finding of the investigation.
- Both the accuser and the accused are entitled to simultaneous notification of any outcomes.
- All of the above.
- All of the above except when a criminal complaint concludes without a conviction. Then UHS must conclude the same way.
Answer: The right answer is D. All of the above
It’s important to know that everyone has rights in this process and that no one is presumed to have violated the policy without going through a prompt, fair, and impartial investigation. If after the investigation, it is determined that a person under the University’s control has violated the policy, then that person has a right to appeal the decision. If the decision is that the policy was not violated, that same right is given to the accuser. Regardless of whether there is an arrest, conviction or anything related to the criminal justice system, UHS has an obligation to determine if its policy has been violated or not.
OK, You know how social media pages have all those ads for stuff they think you’re interested in? Well so does Salutations!
The ads on Salutations are going to help you better understand these concepts by hearing directly from current or returning students. Think of these ads as candid thoughts and opinions from real UHS students. These first ads deal with the realities of college party culture.
Study Hard, Party Safe is going to give you some insight on how to party smart.
The Usual Suspects challenges the common stereotypes that surround sexual misconduct – such as men, like Barry, cannot be victims of sexual misconduct. Speaking of Barry, he was disappointed that unflattering videos of him were posted online and could potentially be harmful for future employment.
For Your Eyes Only? deals with the issue of posting unflattering or risqué pictures on the internet without a person’s consent.
Please note that the views and opinions expressed in the ads within Salutations are those of the University of Houston System (“UHS”) and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of UHS or any of its component institutions. The intent of these ads are to expose new students to the opinions of others including current or returning students and experts within the sexual violence prevention community. Their opinions should be viewed as information provided for the purpose of making new students aware of common concepts regarding sexual misconduct and how the UHS community can reduce the risk of its occurrence on its campuses.
To view the official position of UHS on these matters, please review its Sexual Misconduct Policy at Policy UHS Salutations
Study hard, Party safe:
What are your thoughts about college party culture?
Opinion: “A lot of people go to parties just to get as drunk as possible”
Opinion: “At least from my experience there’s a big drinking presence on campus”
Opinion: “When you think of college that’s what you think of the parties and think of spring break”
Opinion: “I would drink about every two weeks. Depends on the occasion, but I’ll have like five or six drinks.”
Opinion: “I weigh like 95lbs, so two drinks or five drinks a night”
Opinion: “Since I’m in a sorority, alcohol is very accessible”
What is binge drinking?
Opinion: “When someone has a lot of drinks in a short period of time”
Opinion: “Binge drinking is very serious and I feel like a big mistake that a lot of students make coming into college is that they neglect that it can lead to death”
Reuben Parrish, Assistant of Health Education, UH Wellness: “My definition of binge drinking is high risk drinking. A way a person will drink that may lead to unwanted results.”
Alexandra Copeland, Health Educator and Case Manager, UH Victoria: “A lot of times of times you’ll put yourself in different situations where you are not aware of what’s going on around you. So if you consume too much alcohol you’re incoherent, you don’t know what’s going on, you don’t remember what’s going on-“
Opinion: “It’s really unsafe because at certain points you don’t know what you’re doing and you don’t know how it could affect others around you or yourself.”
How do people get pressured into drinking?
Opinion: “I’ve attempted to go to a couple of parties, but kind of had to duck out because I felt really uncomfortable.”
Opinion: “The atmosphere that you’re in is the pressure, as well as your peers, you’re basically the odd one out if you’re not drinking.”
Opinion: “If somebody kept pressuring me to have a drinks then I would just tell them ‘no.’”
Opinion: “There is always something else. I go and I hang out with my friends and we play video games and we have just as much fun.”
How do you stay safe during drinking games?
Opinion: “I will admit that I really enjoy playing drinking games, but I think that there needs to be a limit. You’re being really silly or getting a little inappropriate so we’re just gonna’ go ahead and cut you off.”
Opinion: “Usually when I join a drinking game it’s because I know more people there, so they’ll usually keep an eye out for me and I’ll keep an eye out for them.”
What does it mean to be incapacitated?
Opinion: “Incapacitated means to be unconscious, totally out of it and unaware of what’s going on.”
Opinion: “It includes if you’re drinking or inebriated in anyway.”
The other definition is, “not having your normal use of your mental or physical faculties due to drugs or alcohol.”
How can you tell if someone is incapacitated?
Opinion: “You can usually tell by their eyes, their um, pupils are a little more dilated.” Dilated pupils.
Opinion: “If they have a beer in their hand, you know, it’s probably not the first one that they’ve had.” Drink in hand.
Opinion: “They can’t really walk straight-“ Can’t walk straight.
Opinion: “-tripping, stumbling, um throwing up especially.” Tripping, stumbling...throwing up.
Opinion: “Also speech gets a little bit more slurred.” Slurred speech.
Reuben Parrish, Assistant of Health Education, UH Wellness: “An easy way to remember some of the signs and symptoms is PUBS. P, U, B, S. P is for puking, another one is being unconscious, unconscious is different than sleeping or blacking out. Breathing, a person may be breathing about 8 breaths per minute, so that’s very slow. S, skin will become pale, blueish, clammy.”
Opinion: “Well when I was a freshman, I made the mistake of going to a party, and I really didn’t know my limits, I had never drank before, I had never experienced anything like that. I was really sheltered growing up, so coming onto campus and meeting a bunch of new people, and, ‘Oh come on let’s go to a party it’ll be fine, you’ll be fine.’ And listening to them and trusting that they would know my limits, um, was a huge mistake that I learned the hard way. So I would advise people to kind of take it easy when you first get to college and do things that are productive and don’t involve alcohol. You don’t really know what to do, you can’t drive yourself, and it’s scary when you don’t know anybody and your trapped at a party and you have to find a way to get home and trust that whoever’s taking you will get you home safe. And it’s scary.”
How do you stay safe while drinking?
Reuben Parrish, Assistant of Health Education, UH Wellness: “So there is a lot of ways you can protect yourself while drinking; one is be a designated driver, be around individuals who don’t drink as much so the peer pressure is limited during that situation. Another thing is to eat before, that will help coat the stomach to where the alcohol doesn’t get into the bloodstream as fast. Count the drinks. Standard sized drinks: 12ounces of beer, 4-5 ounces of wine, and 1.5 ounces of hard liquor. Understanding the drink sizes will help you make better decisions on how much that you can drink throughout the night.”
Opinion: “I think it’s always important to be with someone who is not under the influence, then they can kind of be the watch dog for you, you know, and make sure that you’re not doing anything you shouldn’t be and that people aren’t trying to do things that they shouldn’t be to you.”
Opinion: “Part of the learning process I think is knowing how far you can go. I try not to take more than 2 or 3 drinks an hour.”
Opinion: “I usually drink a cup of water after every drink, to keep hydrated so I don’t have a hangover.”
Opinion: “-And eat beforehand too-” Eat food.
Opinion: “-oh definitely”
Alexandra Copeland, Health and Case Manager, UH Victoria: “Make sure that you know what is going in your drinks, make sure you know how much you are drinking because sometimes if you are having a mixed drink, like trash can punch, you think it’s one cup, but it’s actually 3 and 4 drinks. You think, “Oh, I’m having 3 drinks in one hour”, but what you actually had was 10-12 drinks in that one hour, and that can [speed] up the rate of being intoxicated and having those negative consequences that could follow.”
Negative consequences that can impact your physical and mental health:
- Accidents and falls are common because being drunk affects your balance and coordination.
- In extreme cases, you could die. Overdosing on alcohol can stop your breathing or stop your heart, or you could choke on your vomit.
- Binge drinking can affect your mood and your memory and, in the long term, can lead to serious mental health problems and anti-social, aggressive and violent behavior. No one wants to see you this way.
- Legal consequences: DUI’s and other violations of the law are no fun either.
Then of course there is this advice. . .
Opinion: “Don’t drink, period.”
For more information, please visit: UHS Salutations
The Usual Suspects: Students Talk About Sexual Stereotypes
Opinion: “The stereotype is like almost always the heterosexual man.”
Opinion: “Somebody that’s apart of Greek life or party culture.”
Opinion: “Somebody that is very outgoing, uh, is forceful.”
Opinion: “The scary guy that hides in the bushes.”
Opinion: “In a college frat.”
Opinion: “You’ll never picture a woman sexually assaulting a man.”
Opinion: “Victims of sexual assault are typically seen as women who dress provocatively and ‘ask for’ the sexual behavior.”
Opinion: “Women are seen as victims of sexual assault.”
Opinion: “There are very, very clear stereotypes that people need to fight against because they are damaging.”
Opinion: “It can really ruin the credibility of certain organizations, of certain populations of people and this may be an unfair generalization.”
Opinion: “It leads to a lot of doubt of male survivors of assault. People don’t believe them because they don’t think this is a situation that could’ve happened.”
1 in 33 men have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.
Opinion: “They have the mindset that it’s always them, and hence that it’s never gonna’ be somebody else.”
Opinion: “It could be anyone.”
Opinion: “Anybody is likely to be a perpetrator of an assault and also anyone is equally likely to be a victim.”
2/3 of rapes are committed by someone the victim knows.
Opinion: “We change those stereotypes by being the change.”
Opinion: “It starts with education; what consent means. How do I get it properly?”
Consent: means an agreement to do something. Always get verbal consent from your partner before participating in sexual activity.
Opinion: “Learning to respect others.”
Opinion: “Push through the stigma of talking about rape.”
Opinion: “And being the model of what you want others to be, and raising awareness and education.”
For more information, please visit: UHS Salutations
Text message: For Your Eyes Only (?)
Risqué, pronounced ri’skā/ An adjective meaning: Slightly indecent or provocative, especially by being sexually suggestive.
Text message: Why should you be concerned about sending risqué pictures to anyone?
Opinion: “If you send pictures, it’s out there, like it’s not being deleted. You’re never getting that picture back, so it’s not smart to do that in my opinion.”
Opinion: “People screenshot texts or anything to anybody, so you’re kind of putting yourself in that situation if you do that.” [“PRIVATE” in strikethrough text.]
Opinion: “If I send you something, um, it’s at least to me assumed that the consent is only for you. Unless I tell you, “Hey you can send this to whoever you want.” Consent=only for you.
Opinion: “You’re basically trusting the receiver to value, like, what you have sent to them. And to respect that it was your choice to send it to them.” Trust, Value, Respect.
Text message: What would you do if someone forwarded someone else’s risqué picture to you?
Text message: Keep in mind, sending risqué photos or videos of others without their consent is not only disrespectful, but also considered sexual exploitation under the Sexual Misconduct Policy.
Opinion: “I would delete it immediately.”
Opinion: “Honestly the best thing to do is say, ‘Hey don’t do it anymore.’”
Opinion: “If you feel safe doing it, you should confront them.”
Opinion: “If you feel that someone would get offended over something you posted, then it’s just better not to post it at all. Protect yourself at the end of the day.”
Text message: Is it ok to take a photo or video without that person’s consent?
Opinion: “Not ok.”
Opinion: “I don’t think so.”
Opinion: “Of course not.”
Opinion: “I think it’s just kind of immature.”
Opinion: “The only time I would think it’s okay, is if they’re your friend and we’re just hanging out.”
Opinion: “It depends on the context. In a public place like this, I guess it might be ok.”
Opinion: “I don’t like being filmed or photographed without my knowledge so I extend that respect to anyone because I think that consent in all things is very important.”
Text message: Is it OK to post photos or videos online without consent?
Opinion: “We take pictures of each other all the time, and I know if I take a bad picture of her or she takes a bad picture of, we don’t want that posted. But I know like even if it’s some random person I wouldn’t want them taking a picture or video of me and I not know about it.”
Text message: Get permission to take their picture and let them know how you intend to use it.
Opinion: “One thing that I don’t tolerate is being put somewhere that I don’t want to be, especially along the lines of social media, because I know me, as a football player, could ruin my reputation. So I make it perfectly clear to whoever I’m with, ‘Hey don’t take pictures, or anything like that.’”
Text message: Remember everything posted online about you has the potential of defining who you are. Be smart and don’t let risqué pictures or your online image give anyone the wrong impression of you, your friends or any organizations you belong to.
Text message: How will you protect your online image?
Opinion: “When you’re looking at your own profile or something like that, it’s kind of your responsibility to monitor it and make sure what’s on there, what’s not on there, what do I want, what do I don’t want.”
Opinion: “I don’t want the wrong message to be sent out.”
Opinion: “I do not take videos and pictures that I don’t want online.”
Opinion: “Any kind of nudity or any kind of pictures that you know you wouldn’t show to your parents that would be a picture that probably shouldn’t be online.”
Opinion: “I post pictures that I feel comfortable with everybody else seeing.”
Opinion: “If I don’t like it I will usually personally message the person and tell them, “Can you take it down?”
For more information, please visit: UHS Salutations
Alex: Another cool part of college is the opportunity you have to meet so many different and interesting people going through the same experiences. Sometimes these opportunities turn into friendships that last a lifetime. Sometimes they develop into more intimate relationships. While these relationships can be new and exciting, they can also be unhealthy and could end up negatively impacting your education. Some students that have this experience turn to alcohol and other substances to mask the pain of an unhealthy relationship. Now, in top of the reality of dealing with an unhealthy relationship, there comes additional risk because of how the person is coping.
Video Series:“Party hard!”
Marisela: Can anybody get me some beer in here?
Marisela: I want to play again. Come on who’s next?
“OMG Gossip! J
Marisela: Let me tell you about Stephanie. She makes you think she’s your friend. But then…
Marisela: My jam, right there. Come on you guys.
Marisela: Come on, come on. No no no no no.
“Lovers </3 Quarrel”
Marisela: What do you mean, what am I doing?
Kelly: You’re embarrassing yourself, dancing all over.
Marisela: No I’m not. No!
Kelly: You’ve had too much for real, it’s time for us to leave.
Marisela: Leave me alone!
Kelly: Marisela, what the hell! Wait!
Kate: Last night was INSANE. Thnx JONATHAN for driving!!!
Jonathan: np anything for u
Williams: get a room
Alex: Yoooooo, did anyone get the vidz of Marisela last night?
Jonathan: Ya. Kinda funny but not.
Williams: I’m still laughing. Tired of seeing them fight tho. It got much worse after that vid
Kate: Did you see how Kelly was leering at Marisela all night? I knew it was going to go down just by the way she was staring at her.
Jonathan: Kelly told me they were getting back together. So confused rt now.
Kate: Guys, it’s really bad. Marisela told me Kelly hit her a couple of weeks ago because she wouldn’t give her the password to her phone. That’s y we hadn’t seen her.
Jonathan: Whaaaaaaaaat. OMG. Why did she want her password?
Kate: To see who Marisela was chatting with in some dating app. Sad.
Williams: Wow. That explains why she was acting like that.
Jonathan: I knew something was up, but didn’t see this coming.
Alex: Hold on she is coming into class now.
Marisela (in person): Ok, I get it I get it. I broke the internet. So I got really wasted, big deal. Did they really need to record me and send it out to everyone? Probably not. And Jarred was saying, I deserved what I got. Whatever. I’m a big girl and I’ll get over it. I mean, just for one night…one night that I was just trying to relax and have fun, but my ex wouldn’t let me. We broke up weeks ago and she just keeps showing up everywhere, in my dorm. She even switched classes to be in mine and even though I told her not to go to the party, she showed up anyways. Seriously, she won’t leave me alone. And sometimes she would do sweet stuff for me like take care of something for me, or help me out with something at school, but then the next thing you know, she’s just yelling at me and throwing things at me. And after she blackened my eye two weeks ago, I was done! I mean she could be great at times, but our relationship was just not good for either of us. So this morning I went to UHS Salutations and I found a lot of information that helped me understand what this kind of dating violence is, and what kind of resources and options are available to me. There’s even counseling and I think I am gonna’ go. I also found out that I could file a complaint against my ex, but I don’t think I’m ready to do that yet so, I talked to the Title IX Coordinator and I filed a No Contact Order. That way neither of us will be allowed to contact the other. And the thing that really freaks me out is, I’m not out to my family yet and if they knew about all of this, they would lose it! I just don’t want them to find out like this.
Questions on Unhealthy Dating Scenarios
Please answer the following:
Marisela is not ready to file a complaint against her ex yet. So why should she talk to a Title IX Coordinator?
- To obtain a room change or adjustment to her class schedule.
- To locate a confidential resource.
- To obtain a University issued no-contact order or get information regarding a restraining order from the court.
- To obtain a list of on and off-campus resources.
- All of the above.
Answer: The answer is E. All of the above.
Even if a victim of sexual misconduct is not ready to pursue any formal action, resources can be provided and interim measures may be taken to protect those involved in the misconduct.
What is needed in order for someone’s conduct to be considered stalking?
- More than two annoying contacts.
- Five contacts (even if accidental) but only if two of them were unwanted.
- Two contacts in person and two contacts online.
- Unwanted contacts and a person’s reasonable fear for their safety.
- One act of violence.
Answer: The answer is D. Unwanted contacts and a person’s reasonable fear for their safety.
Under the Sexual Misconduct Policy, stalking is engaging in a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to fear for their safety or suffer substantial emotional distress.
True or False?
One option that is available to Marisela is to get a protective order, which is a temporary court order intended to help provide safety and prevent continuing acts of sexual misconduct against the victim. If she obtains an order, and informs her campus police or Title IX Coordinator of it, UHS will observe it.
Answer: The right answer is true.
As described in the Sexual Misconduct Policy, UHS will honor any order of protection, no contact order, restraining order or similar lawful order issued by any criminal, civil or tribal court. The safety of our campus is of paramount importance to us. Just let your campus police or the Title IX Coordinator know so we can comply with the order.
For the following ads we are going to distinguish healthy college experiences from unhealthy ones.
Healthy or Unhealthy. That is the Question will help us identify see the signs of both types of relationships.
The Blame Game will deal with the issue of victim blaming, or how people blame the victim for being assaulted or abused like Marisela.
Do you use dating apps? Dating apps are becoming pretty popular today and this ad discusses the experiences of students who have used dating apps and advice on how they used them safely.
Healthy or Unhealthy That is the Question
Whether you are a freshman or a graduate student, you know that a wonderful part of the human experience is developing and cultivating relationships.
While some relationships are more serious than others, most of the time, these relationships are fun, exciting, healthy, and they make you feel good.
Sometimes, however, these relationships can be unhealthy and harmful either to you or other people involved. Unhealthy relationships can be risky because someone can get hurt emotionally or physically.
Let’s give you some signs so you can recognize both.
What are the signs of a healthy relationship?
Opinion: “I think a relationship is healthy when both parties are happy, when they’re independent enough to do their own thing.”
Opinion: “Show the other that you love them in more ways than just the physical sense.”
Opinion: “You complement each other.”
Opinion: “Understanding each other and good communication, I think that’s key.”
What are the signs of an unhealthy relationship?
Opinion: “Lying, cheating, things like that. That’s a pretty unhealthy relationship to me.”
Opinion: “When people call each other names, like insulting names.”
Opinion: “They’re distant from their friends, they’re not who they used to be, they keep making excuses for the other person.”
Opinion: “You’re begging for communication. You’re begging for time.”
Opinion: “Feelings of hostility between each other.”
Opinion: “If they try to force you to do things that you are not comfortable doing.”
Opinion: “You start noticing that your friend is probably isolating themselves from you.”
Opinion: “Yeah, something’s probably not right there.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Director, The Bridge: “A healthy relationship is based on four pillars: boundaries, equality, communication, and self-esteem. Boundaries: being able to ask yourself in your relationship, does my partner respect me, as far as the things that they say to me? The way they touch me? Equality is about that give and take being able to negotiate in a relationship. If you’re in a relationship where the person is always telling you what to do, and you feel like you’re always raising the white flag, that may not be a healthy relationship. Communication: the ability to speak up and to advocate for yourself. And if you find yourself sometimes having that lump in your throat and not being able to speak out, it may not be a healthy relationship. And then finally, self-esteem. How do you feel about yourself? And the reality is that those first three pillars aren’t there, if you don’t have effective boundaries, equality, and communication, it can have an impact on how you feel about yourself.”
How do you steer clear of an unhealthy relationship?
Opinion: “You can reduce the risk of being in an abusive relationship by knowing the signs.”
Opinion: “Communicate. What you’re comfortable with, what you expect out of the relationship.”
Opinion: “Knowing their past a little bit can give you a better perspective of how your future with them will be.”
Opinion: “Be aware of the signs and red flags.”
Opinion: “I think it’s important to have an open line of communication with not only your partner, but also friends and family.”
Opinion: “Even being aware that you are in an abusive relationship is all about education. The best thing to do if you see a friend in an abusive relationship or you feel like you’re sinking into an abusive relationship is just to research, ask around, go to the counselors on campus and just ask questions. Just stay informed on it.”
Patrick Lukingbeal: “If you or someone you know thinks that that they may be in an unhealthy relationship, being inclusive of heterosexual, opposite sex couples as well as same sex couples, there are plenty of resources on campus that are willing and able to help you through that.”
Knowing the signs of healthy and healthy relationships can help when you are building new relationships in college.
Everyone deserves to have healthy dating relationships. And yeah, relationships aren’t always easy…but there is never an excuse for violence in a relationship.
For more information, please go to Care UHS Salutations
The Blame Game
Students sometimes will blame the wrong things or people for their actions.
Quote: “I did what I did because I was drunk.”
Sometimes they blame the misconduct on being intoxicated.
Opinion: “It is extremely frequent for people to blame their sexual behavior on alcohol.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Director, The Bridge: “It makes a nice scapegoat.”
Opinion: “Often times you’ll hear students claim that either they weren’t really in control of themselves and that’s why they acted in such a way, or that the other person seemed to be consenting, but they were under the influence, and then there’s kind of this gray area that people sometimes take advantage of.”
Opinion: “It’s unacceptable to blame sexual behavior on alcohol because sexual behavior is a choice.”
Opinion: “You are responsible for your own actions.”
Quote: “It’s not my fault that that person got themselves drunk.”
Sometimes they blame the misconduct on the victim’s intoxication- even when they contributed to the victim being intoxicated.
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Director, The Bridge: “We have to deal with the intent that if a person gets another person drunk, it is the intent of that person to take advantage of them sexually. Or if the person needs ‘courage in a bottle’ the intent was that, ‘I was going to do this act, but I needed something to lower my inhibitions.’ So, alcohol is not the issue, the issue is behavior, the issue is mindset.”
Opinion: “They’ll be like. “Oh here, take another shot. Oh, here, just one more drink.”
Alex Kendall, Outreach Advocate, Fort Bend Women’s Center: “I went to a college party or two that had some sort of punch made that was the strongest thing in the world and tasted like juice.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Director, The Bridge: “It’s actually the number one date rape drug. And they use it to what, take away the person’s ability to give true consent.” Alcohol is the #1 Date Rape Drug.
Opinion: “I think that alcohol should be void of any sort of sexual interaction because lines get really blurry really fast. And consent is essential.” In 1 in 3 sexual assaults, the perpetrator was intoxicated.
Opinion: “Consent is if you’re saying ‘yes.’ not ‘maybe.’ Not ‘I don’t know.’ Not ‘I guess so.’ It’s an absolute ‘yes,’ and this is for the male or female.”
V. [verb] to permit, approve, or agree; comply or yield.
N. [noun] permission, approval, or agreement
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Director, The Bridge: “In the state of Texas, a person who is under the influence of alcohol cannot consent. That is the law.”
In Texas, sexual assault is without the consent of the other person if the perpetrator knows that the victim:
- Is unconscious or physically unable to resist
- As a result of the victim’s incapacitation at the time of the sexual assault, the victim is incapable either of appraising the nature of the act or of resisting it
- Is unaware that the sexual assault is occurring
- The perpetrator has intentionally impaired the victim’s power to appraise or control their conduct by administering any substance without the other person’s knowledge
Opinion: “Victim blaming basically puts the onus for the crime on the victim. “Victim Blaming: a social or psychological phenomenon wherein the fault in a crime (rape, robbery, assault) is attributed to the victim.
Opinion: “He or she was drunk or he or she was dressed a certain way. He or she didn’t say ‘no.’”
Opinion: “’Oh well she was asking for it.’ She was asking for what? She is just wearing a piece of clothing.”
Opinion: “I don’t think anyone is ever ‘asking for it.’ No matter how drunk they are.”
Opinion: “Should they probably have not had all of that? Probably. But, something still happened to them that was not right.”
Opinion: “If you blame the victim, it makes the perpetrator seem innocent.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Director, The Bridge: “If you’re hesitant to report sexual misconduct because you were under the influence, I need you to know, it wasn’t your fault. It was the perpetrator who made the decision to commit the act of sexual violence, and yes, sexual violence.”68% of sexual assaults are not reported to the police.
If you are a victim of sexual violence, please consider the following:
- Calling the police. You can call the police in the jurisdiction where the violence occurred or you can contact your campus police department. By calling the police you may receive information regarding your rights as well as information regarding the preservation of evidence necessary to the proof of sexual violence.
- Getting medical attention. Even though you may not feel any pain, you may be injured. Also, a sexual assault forensic exam may be performed by a medical professional certified in this area at no cost to you. Go to Hope Laws for more information regarding the exam.
- Consulting a confidential resource such as a licensed professional counselor, medical professional or a member of the clergy. These trained professionals can provide counseling, information, and support under legally protected confidentiality. Because these relationships involve privileged conversations, these confidential resources will not share information with the Title IX Coordinator or any other employee of the University without the individual’s express permission. They may, however, submit non-identifying information about the incident for purposes of making a statistical report under federal law.
- Contacting your campus Title IX Coordinator. That person will be able to provide you with the various options available to you and can help you secure any accommodations you might need, like an adjustment to your housing or your class schedule.
To locate these resources on your campus please visit: UHS Salutations Resources
Do you use dating apps?
Text message: Do you use any dating or hookup apps?
Opinion: “Yes, all the time.”
Opinion: “I kind of just avoid it. But I have a lot of friends who use Okcupid.”
Opinion: “...Hot or Not...”
Opinion: “...Plenty of Fish...”
Opinion: “Badu. I’ve heard of Tinder.”
Opinion: “Yea Tinder is pretty popular.”
Opinion: “Yea Tinder, I think is the most popular one.”
Opinion: “Any dating apps or very few social medias, I try to stay away from it and keep myself out of trouble.”
Opinion: “I just feel like you never really know who you’re talking to.”
Opinion: “I- I’m the type of person who I like to see people in person. I like to meet you get a feel for you.”
Opinion: “If I can’t see you as a person, and um get to know you that way, there’s not a reason for me to get to know you.”
Text message: Have you heard any horror stories?
Text message: OMG YES!
Opinion: “I have a friend of mine, she was um talking to a guy on a dating app, he was working his way up to try to be like boyfriend and girlfriend, to be actually dating. But, he needed a roommate to pay half his bills.”
Opinion: “I did go on a date with a Tinder person, just one time, I didn’t want to talk to him anymore and he kept texting over and over again. So after that, I decided that it wasn’t for me.”
Text message: Hey baby
Text message: What up?
Text message: HELLOOOOOO!
Opinion: “I had a friend of mine who got catfished, and he thought he had met the love of his life, from Bulgaria. And they ended up flying like midway, they met in Europe for spring break two years ago and turns out it wasn’t the person he thought it was.”
Catfish /’kat,fiSH/: someone who pretends to be someone they are not online to create false identities, particularly to pursue deceptive online romances.
Opinion: “You don’t have to have any proof of your identity to sign up for one of these. You can literally put a name and upload any photo. It’s really easy to fake a profile or fake an identity.”
Text message: I’m meeting up with someone I met online. Any advice?
Opinion: “If you go on those websites, you don’t know what you’re in for.”
Opinion: “Be very careful of the information you put out there.”
Opinion: “You know there is crazy people out there.”
Opinion: “Don’t tell people too many things about you, like where you live, what school you go to.”
Opinion: “You have to know when to cut it off. When you are not comfortable with giving information out.”
Opinion: “Because you don’t really know these people, and generally you know if you have a stalker-ish type person, these are people utilizing the apps, where they can hide behind electronics and the internet and not reveal their true selves.”
Opinion: “License plate numbers, if you go somewhere with them, always write that down or have someone else write that down. Everything that you need to know don’t just let someone pick you up, and say ‘Oh they’re cute.’”
Opinion: “So you just have to be cautious.”
Opinion: “Especially meeting the people in person. They’re not always who they say they are.”
Opinion: “I keep myself safe by just making sure that anytime I go to meet somebody, I always have a friend or somebody, who knows where I am at all times.”
For more information, please visit UHS Salutations.
Alex: Okay – here is something you should know. Every so often, the University sends out a notice called a Clery Alert. The idea behind the alert is to give the campus community a timely warning of a crime, such as sexual assault, that could be a threat to your safety. Now sometimes those alerts contain information that make you think about campus safety or maybe how you can make your campus safer. And if you’re wondering the latter, here are three definite ways you can make your campus a safer place. First, you can make sure that you don’t commit sexual misconduct. Second, if you do engage in a sexual activity with someone, make sure you get consent from them every time you do. And third, whenever you see sexual misconduct about to happen, safely intervene so that you can stop the offending behavior from occurring. Think, if not you, then who?
Clery Alert Sample
Clery Alert: A UHS student reports being a victim of sexual assault. Submitted 1 hour ago by user-x.
FlueBlue2881: What is this?
- Amysandcat: It’s a Security alert. Whenever something goes down on campus, UHS sends it out to everyone.
- SeenJuice3: Good thing police are involved.
- CottonCamera: I heard the Title IX folks are involved too.
- Gooseus: That’s awkward. I prefer the cops. They put people in jail.
ALEX381xv: LOL! The victim chooses what they want to do. Plus, I hear the cops and Title IX work together so that you know all of your options and rights.
- Sodataries101: That’s sad if it was someone she knew.
- WonderWin+: I know. Date rape sux.
WonderWin+: I am glad it got reported. Sometimes they don’t get reported because it’s a friend rather than a stranger.
- Sodataries101: Friends don’t hurt their friends like that.
- Gamestroll: He said, she said. Good Luck.
- Amysandcat: U R awful.
- 21MilkDANIELS: 20 yrs in prison. Good luck.
- CottonCamera: He has rights too. Don’t assume he’s guilty – you don’t know.
- <><>(Scouter)<><>: How do you get someone’s DNA?
- 21MilkDANIELS: Sexual Assault Forensic Exam (SAFE). Go to Hope Laws for more info.
Gooseus: I hope the victim has enough evidence to lock him in a cell.
CottonCamera: BTW – no gender mentioned in the alert for either person. Don’t assume.
- Sodatories101: If I were the victim, I wouldn’t want anyone to know.
- Amysandcat: I’d get counseling.
- ALEX381xv: Counselors in the counseling center are a confidential resource so no worries there. So are the docs and nurses at the health center.
- WonderWin+: What’s that?
- Gooseus: U can report misconduct anonymously at MySafeCampus. That way, you can give UHS the details about what happened without giving them your name. No drama.
- Sodataries: Just say no!
Cork88Work: No means no…unless it doesn’t.
- 21MilkDaniels: No means maybe…
- <><>(Scouter)<><>: No means no, sometimes.
ALEX381xv: SMH. Not funny at ALL.
- Sodataries: No always means no.
- Gooseus: Get the yes before you get the no – UHS Salutations
- WonderWin+: No means no. Anything else is confusing.
- ALEX381xv: you have to ask and specifically get consent. That means asking and receiving a yes.
FlueBlue2881: I get the whole consent thing. I just want to get involved.
- Sodataries: We should do something.
- Gooseus: What exactly?
- Sodataries: I don’t know – stop people from harassing other people.
- Amysandcat: Stop people from making bad decisions.
- <><>(Scouter)<><>: We can’t be the only ones thinking about this. I’m going to talk to May at our study session later.
Commentator: So I got this security report the other day, the Clery report, and wow! I said to myself the next time I see something out of order, I’m going to do something about it. They call that “bystander intervention”. So I went to UHS Salutations and learned all about how to do it, you know, safely. And then yesterday when I was heading over to class, I saw some guys hollering at these girls. Like saying some really gross stuff. And the girls were just taking it, not saying anything back. And I said to myself, like honestly if that were happening to me, I wouldn’t have reacted like that. I would have stood up for myself. But then I thought about it and I thought, you know different people react in different ways, and that’s okay. Some cultures think it’s really disrespectful to confront people, even when they are being harassed. Some cultures don’t. Some people just don’t like confrontation period. You know my friends who are international students are afraid to report harassment or even get involved in a sexual misconduct process because they think that it might jeopardize their visa status. That’s not true, but I get it. And then some people assume things about culture and stereotype people. That’s not cool either. You know, I don’t know what I would do if I was in that situation. I guess if my friend were harassing someone, I would say something. Intervene in some way. Maybe say something like, ‘Hey what are you doing? What you’re doing isn’t cool.’ And although I wouldn’t have responded the way those girls did, if I saw it again, I would definitely ask them if they were okay. I would hope that’s what someone would ask me. I would hope that’s what we would all do.
Questions on Assault and Bystander Intervention
Please answer the following:
According to the National Sexual Violence Resource center, in 8 out of 10 cases of rape, the victim knew the person who sexually assaulted them. This is called [blank] rape, and is the most common type of rape, though it often goes unreported because of the fear of social ostracism, coupled with embarrassment and guilt, make it difficult for victims to step forward. This type of rape is called:
- Both Date or Acquaintance would be correct.
- Neither Date or Acquaintance would be correct
Answer: The answer is D. Both Date or Acquaintance would be correct.
The reality is that the majority of victims of sexual assault know their attackers and the assaults happen in places where they fell comfortable. The problem is that when no weapon is used, no obvious physical injury is present, and alcohol was involved, half of all student victims do not define the incident as “rape” so they do not report it. Acquaintance rape is hard to address because the perpetrators were not just dates, but classmates, coworkers, and even friends. If this happens to you and you are concerned about reporting it because you don’t want to get anyone in trouble, at least consider medical or counseling services for yourself. That way, you can get help and discover your options while you are still trying to figure things out.
Bystander Intervention could be as simple as:
- Calling the police if violence is occurring or imminent.
- Interfering with the harassment by asking the victim if they are okay.
- Telling a friend that what they’re doing isn’t cool and they should stop harassing the person.
- All of the above.
- None of the above.
Answer: The answer is D. All of the above.
While these responses may seem simple, in the moment, intervening may not always be that easy, because a bystander must decide if they are comfortable stepping in and offering assistance. Research has found that people tend to struggle with whether helping out is their responsibility, and if several people are present, bystanders are much less likely to help because they believe that someone else will or that they will misjudge that situation. At UHS, we hope that if you observe sexual misconduct, and feel safe intervening, you will. If not, get help for that person or at least ask them if they are okay. Remember, ours is a community that cares.
If someone is a victim of sexual assault, they should consider the following:
- Getting to a safe place.
- Calling the police.
- Getting medical attention. Contacting a confidential resource or a Title IX Coordinator.
- Contacting a confidential resource or a Title IX Coordinator
- All of the above.
Answer: The answer is E. All of the above.
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted or a victim of interpersonal violence, the first thing you should consider is your safety. Find a secure place where you aren’t alone, like a campus health center, or the home of a nearby friend or family member. Also, consider calling 911 to report the incident right away. Provide the dispatcher with the time, place, and description of your assailant. Wait for the police to arrive so that they can collect your statement. If you do decide to call the police, please remember that eating or drinking, showering, brushing your teeth, going to the bathroom, and changing or altering your clothes could destroy physical evidence that may be helpful if you later decide to pursue legal action. If you don’t want to file a police report, consider receiving medical attention at a doctor’s office, urgent care clinic or a hospital as soon as possible. Lastly, consider consulting a confidential resource (such as a licensed professional counselor) or the Title IX Coordinator for your campus. Both will help you sort out all the options that are available to you.
For these last set of ads we are going to explore two concepts:
Since you have already been introduced to those topics, we’ll just let the ads speak for themselves. You are almost finished. Watch these ads, take the exam, and you have formally ben trained!
I’m Bringing Consent Back! Ads
Opinion: “Consent to me is not pressuring someone into doing something that they don’t want to do. NO MEANS NO. There is no wiggle room.”
Opinion: “Consent to me basically means, you have that ok from somebody.”
Opinion: “There has to be an affirmative yes.”
Opinion: “Yes I’m fine with it.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Center, The Bridge: “Consent is getting an actual agreement to have sexual intercourse or to be involved. Taking that opportunity to stop and say, ‘Do you want to do this?’ ‘Yes!’ ‘I want to be with you, you want to be with me.’”
Alex Kendall, Outreach Advocate, Fort Bend Women’s Center: “It means that you both have all of the information. You’re agreeing to something, no one is being tricked into anything they don’t want to do.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Center, The Bridge: “There’s three ways to have sex”
Alex Kendall, Outreach Advocate, Fort Bend Women’s Center:
3 Types of sex
- Consensual Sex
- Coerced Sex
- Forced Sex
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Center, The Bridge: “You want to stay in the consent field, because consent means I’ve given you an absolute yes.”
Consent- getting permission for touching, kissing, or various sexual behaviors.
Opinion: “Relationships do not equal consent.”
Opinion: “You have to get a yes before you can keep going with anything. You don’t do things and wait for the ‘no.’”
Opinion: “Just being together doesn’t mean you’re able to do whatever you want. You have to make sure your partner is comfortable.”
Opinion: “If they are showing that they’re uncomfortable that’s not consent.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Center, The Bridge: “Coercion means that ‘maybe I wasn’t really sure about it, and so I did it because I needed something from you.’”
Coercion- to compel by intimidation, or authority, [especially] without regard for the individual desire or volition.
Opinion: “You don’t want to do anything that will get you in trouble or something that would hurt the other person, so you always have to ask out of respect.”
Opinion: “From a little thing like a kiss, all the way to you know sex. Just ask.”
Opinion: “I would just be like, ‘Are you sure?’ or, ‘Is this ok?’”
Force- to make (someone) do something against their will.
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Center, The Bridge: “And then there is force, where someone actually, forces you to engage in a sexual act.”
Alex Kendall, Outreach Advocate, Fort Bend Women’s Center: “When we think of the word rape, we often think of forced sex, use of violence, that sort of thing. But a lot of times, it’s a lot more insidious than that. It’s someone sort of just trying to talk someone into doing something or you know making the same attempt at the same thing over and over and over, as they’re being pushed away.”
Rape- To force (another person) to have sexual intercourse with the offender against their will.
8 out of 10 sexual assaults occur with no weapon used other than physical force.
One way we can reduce the risk of sexual assault occurring on our campus is to talk about consent and confront ideas that perpetuate rape.
Opinion: “When you hear somebody make a rape joke, it’s important that you say something about it. If you are in a position where you can, where you feel safe to. One of the tools that I use is to ask people why it’s funny when they tell like a sexist, or a racist or like a rape joke, to be like, ‘I don’t get it, why is your joke funny?’ And have them explain it to you, like why they were laughing at what could have been the worst experience of someone’s life.”
When you hear somebody make a rape joke, say something.
For more information, please visit: Consent UHS Salutations
Opinion: “I see catcalling happen all the time.”
Opinion: “All the time.”
Opinion: “All the time, yeah.”
Opinion: “Hey you, hey ya.” [makes kissing sounds]
Opinion: “Hey mama.”
Opinion: “Do you wanna give me those digits?”
Opinion: “Hey girl how you doing? You looking fine.”
Opinion: “At first it’s like funny. You’re like ‘Oh my god are they really saying that?’ And then, you kinda think about it for a second, and it’s kind of degrading.”
Opinion: “I’m just like walking on the edge of campus, and somebody is commenting on my body in a sexual manner.”
Opinion: “Makes you feel like an object, like a piece of meat.”
Opinion: “What goes through my mind first is how angry I am that it’s even a thing.”
Opinion: “A lot of the time if you don’t respond, it sort of irks them to keep going.”
Opinion: “I wish catcallers understood that what they’re doing is not gonna’ get them anybody.”
Opinion: “I would never go for somebody like that.”
Opinion: “Not socially acceptable to act that way.”
Opinion: “It could be taken as a threat from a male.”
Opinion: “If a male walked past a group of 5 women, then they’re not going to feel like that. I think that’s the horrible double standard about it, is that there’s really no way I could make them feel as uncomfortable that they made me feel.”
Thecia Jenkins, Advocacy and Education Center, The Bridge: “Sexual harassment is any behavior of a sexual nature that is not wanted, not welcome, and happens on a frequent basis. And many people are very surprised because things such as catcalling are “flirting”, has become so normalized that people don’t realize that it is a form of sexual harassment and it is a violation of your rights. When responding to catcalling, you can take a couple of approaches. #1. You can choose to ignore it. Just pretend like you didn’t hear it and keep walking or call the person on it. Because what that does is it alerts that person that maybe this isn’t appropriation. However, I would also encourage the person to report it because that is considered sexual harassment. End of conversation.”
Please visit Consent UHS Salutations
Commentator: What is a bystander? A bystander is someone who is present or observing but not involved. We’re all bystanders. Teammates, classmates, strangers. Everyone.
Firstly, it’s really important for bystanders to really notice what’s going on around them, to stay attuned to risky situations. For example, say you’re at a party and you see a friend stumbling around and being led to someone else’s room. This is a risky situation.
Secondly, interpret the situation as an emergency. By emergency, we mean there is the possibility of a sexual assault or domestic violence in the near future. If something doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t.
Third, take personal responsibility for intervening. You may be thinking to yourself that someone else will intervene, but you’d be surprised how many other people are thinking the same thing. So it’s important for you to take action.
If you’re unsure if you should do something, ask a friend. Maybe they’ve been thinking the same thing.
Animated figure shown asking: “Should we do something?” and another figure answering, “Yeah, I think we should.” Think to yourself, if not you, then who?
Fourth, know how you can help. There are lots of ways to intervene. Your safety is of the utmost importance. If you or another student feels threatened by physical harm, seek help.
If you do feel safe though, feel free to intervene with one of the three “D’s”: direct, distract, or delegate. You can be direct if something doesn’t seem right. Just step in and face the issue directly.
Animated figures shown stating, “Hey, that’s not cool,” “Leave them alone!” and “Stop that!”
This technique is great for anyone who knows or trusts you. It’s not such a great technique for anyone who is impaired by drugs or alcohol. Their conversation skills are a little impaired, and they might get defensive.
Animated figure shown pumping fists and saying, “Hey man back off! What are you going to do about it?!”
Or you can intervene by using a distraction. Distract either person in the situation, it’s as simple as saying, “Hey, don’t I know you from my Spanish club?” or “Who wants to go get pizza?”
Animated figure shown asking, “Hey! Don’t I know you?” and another figure pumping fist and saying “Pizza!”
Distraction is a particularly effective technique when drugs and alcohol are in use. People under the influence of drugs and alcohol are a lot more easily distracted then those who are sober.
If you don’t know what to do or you don’t feel comfortable, you can delegate. Find others around you to help intervene in the situation. Like asking a friend to distract someone while you go distract the other [person].
Animations show friends on either side of two figures, getting their attention away from each other.
Or asking someone to go and sit down and talk to someone. Or starting a dance party in the middle of a conversation. It’s all very simple things, however, if you don’t know either person in the situation, you could ask around to see if anyone else does. Maybe check in with them. See if they can sit down and talk with them.
Animated figure shown asking another figure if they know one of the other figures and then asking “Can you help me out?”
At the University of Houston System, it is our goal to create an environment where everyone feels safe. We want you to intervene because ours is a community that cares. And not one where we would leave behind those who need help. But in making the decision to intervene, please keep in mind the well-being of yourself and of others. Remember you have options: Direct, Delegate, Distract. Either way, let’s remember to take care of each other. Recap of animated figures shows one asking, “Hey don’t I know you?”, another saying, “Can you help me out?” and one with a pizza speak bubble.
For more information on bystander intervention and other great resources, please visit UHS Salutations.
Taking Care of One Another
Opinion: “It is important for students to look after each other.”
Opinion: “For staying on top of you academics, for getting involved in meaningful organizations, or being safe at parties.”
Opinion: “Obviously college is a time where you want to explore who you are as a person. You have that freedom, but you need people there who are going to look after you. You need someone to look after you.” Freedom.
Opinion: “So if you’re ever in a situation, you want to be there for them just like they will be for you hopefully.”
Opinion: “So I think this is where the bystander responsibility comes in. I look out for my friends but I also look out for strangers who I see who might be in danger. Because that could be me, that could be my friend.” Bystander Responsibility. That could be me. That could be my friend.
Opinion: “To prevent sexual assault within my friends I make sure they get home safe, I go with them to the restroom, I walk to the parking lot with them.”
Opinion: “Never leaving them alone. Make sure you know where everyone is. Set expectations with each other. This is what I want to get out of the party, these are the limits I want to set. Can you please stay vigilant and hold me accountable to that?”
Opinion: “If it’s your good friend, you know what their limits, what their boundaries are, and you’re not going to let people cross those.”
Opinion: “If a friend of mine was sexually assaulted, I would like to make sure I’m there for that person.” Be there.
Opinion: “I think somebody can be a good friend in preventing sexual misconduct definitely by reserving judgment.” Reserve judgement.
Opinion: “Don’t assume that they did something to cause it, or that they somehow are responsible for this or that they’re lying about it.” Don’t make assumptions.
Opinion: “And validate their feelings. It’s okay that this happened, it’s okay to feel how you are.” Validate their feelings.
Opinion: “You cannot tell people what to do, but you can certainly advise them on like the types of decisions they can make.”
Opinion: “I don’t want to be just a bystander. I want to step in the way and say, ‘Hey, this shouldn’t happen.’” Bystander.
Opinion: “Don’t be afraid to use your voice no matter what the situation is.” Don’t be afraid to use your voice.
Opinion: “We have the power to change anything we want and if we don’t stick together and let stuff like this keep happening, it’s going to corrupt everything that we stand for.” We have the power to CHANGE.
For more information, please visit UHS Salutations.
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